• STARTOVER.XYZ

      This website is a Bubble in the Bubble Map of the massively-multiplayer online-and-offline thoughtware-upgrade personal-transformation game called StartOver.xyz. It is a doorway to experiments that upgrade your thoughtware so you have the distinctions to create more possibility. Your knowledge is what you think about. Your thoughtware is what you think with. When you change your thoughtware, you go through a liquid state as your mind reorganizes itself. Liquid states can bring up transformational feelings and emotions. By upgrading your thoughtware you build matrix to hold more consciousness. No one can do this for you. No one can stop you from doing it. Our theory is that when we collectively build one million more Matrix Points we will change the morphogenetic field of the human race for the better. Please choose responsibly to read this website. Reading this whole website is worth 1 Matrix Point. Doing any of the experiments earns you additional Matrix Points. Please use Matrix Code YOUATTEN.00 to log your Matrix Points earned at this website on http://StartOver.xyz. Thank you for playing full out!

    • What Is Attention?

      Human attention is one of the most delectable substances in the universe. How much effort do you put into trying to get attention from other people? Why? Most people love to get either positive or negative attention because it feels great to have another person’s attention, no matter what form it is.

       

      We each have masculine and feminine forms of attention. Masculine attention is singular, focused, directed, analytical “point attention.” Feminine attention is wide-band, multi-dimensional, free floating, intuitive “field attention.” Each kind of attention has its particularly effective applications. Masculine point attention is useful for persisting, getting a project finished, or “drilling down” to get to the root of a matter. Feminine field attention is useful for scanning people, projects or situations to assess the state of things, check for unexpected conditions, detect moods or the drift of underlying currents.

    • Where your attention goes your energy flows.

    • Common Things That Can Devour Your Energy

      Most of the time we do not even know where our attention is. Our attention wanders around, bouncing from one thing to the next; whatever flashy object or loud sound strikes us gets our attention. Without specific practice we have difficulty placing our attention anywhere with intention, for any length of time, because our attention span is so short and we are so accustomed to letting it be absorbed in distractions.
      Since our energy follows our attention, then whatever has our attention also consumes our energy. A thousand distractions will feed on us whenever we don’t pay attention to exactly what we are feeding with our flow of energy. Here is a list of distractions that consistently get our attention and devour our energy.

      • Worries.
      • Resentments.
      • Physical pain or discomfort, even minor itches or having your hair out of place.
      • Withholding communications; not saying what needs to be said.
      • Keeping secrets.
      • Withholding anger, fear or sadness.
      • Repressing joy.
      • Getting hooked and emotionally overreacting.
      • Taking sides in a conflict.
      • Taking a position about anything, e.g., politics, sports, art, religion, science.
      • Having opinions.
      • Sustaining beliefs.
      • Avoiding unpleasant tasks.
      • Having internal mental conversations with others.
      • Having other people’s energy in your personal space.
      • Power struggles with authority figures.
      • Making up justifications for what you did or what you want to do.
      • Blaming others.
      • Trying to be right.
      • Trying to make other people wrong.
      • Trying to be perfect.
      • Complaining to anyone about anything.
      • Trying to get other people’s attention.
      • Trying to remember what you forgot.
      • Trying to find or reclaim what you have lost.
      • Trying to look good.
      • Trying to look better than other people.
      • Trying to be acceptable to others.
      • Trying to make other people jealous.
      • Trying to look normal.
      • Trying to be superior.
      • Strategizing ways to get revenge.
      • Being late, even just a few minutes.
      • Breaking your promises.
      • Not answering the exact question that was asked.
      • Saying more than is necessary.
      • Driving faster than the speed limit.
      • Arguing with anybody about anything.
      • Making messes for others to clean up.
      • Living in unseen messes, e.g. packed attics, unwashed dishes, unpaid bills.
      • Unfinished business, uncompleted projects.
      • Broken agreements, either by you or by others.
      • Broken objects that need to be fixed.
      • Too many possessions, having more than you need.
      • Borrowing money or things.
      • Loaning money or things.
      • Flirting, i.e., exchanging sexual energy casually with friends or strangers, over the telephone or over the Internet.
      • Protecting other people from feeling hurt; walking on eggshells.
      • Being adaptive.
      • Giving your center away.
      • Being a source of psychic violence.
      • Making lists of things to do.
      • Disorganization, confusion, pointless chaos.
      • Listening to other people complaining.
      • Overeating; over drinking.
      • Junk food.
      • Drugs, prescribed or not.
      • Trying to stay in fashion.
      • Indulgence, e.g., fantasy worlds, bingeing, over shopping.
      • Mass media: television, radio, newspaper, magazines, billboards, posters, etc.
      • Overindulging in desire for objects or experiences, e.g. sexual fantasies.
      • Addictions, e.g., to adrenaline, to problems, to being perfect, or to speed.
      • Gossiping or being around gossip.
      • Low Drama.
      • Triangulating in communications, telling one person what you should be telling another person.
      • Not enough boundaries with your children.
      • Not enough boundaries with your parents.
      • Not enough boundaries with your own Gremlin.
      • Excessive orgasms or orgiastic behavior.
      • Making boundaries at the castle gate instead of at the frontier.
      • Avoiding contact or intimacy with your mate, shunning.
      • Making other plans, having a back door.
      • Leading a double life.
      • Not expressing what is really going on with you.
      • Conflicts with your neighbors, colleagues, boss, employees.
      • Violence, cathartic expression of emotions, horror films or novels.
      • Doing things that you do not consciously take responsibility for choosing to do.
      • Doing things you do not want to do.
      • Always just doing things, and so on.

      As you can see, your energy is swiftly devoured by countless distractions. Without paying attention to your attention, your precious energy is easily sucked away. Like a sieve with a thousand holes you can be drained in a matter of seconds. No wonder we can be so tired halfway through the day. Without realizing how, we frivolously spend our daily energy allotment. Then we have little patience for deep listening, for being-with others, or for doing Edgework Experiments.

    • "Human attention is sometimes the only thing required to perform healings and transformations."

      Clinton Callahan, Radiant Joy Brilliant Love

    • Take Back Your Attention

      Experiment

      We do not normally think much about our attention. Perhaps this is because our attention is so close to us. Like glasses on our nose, we sometimes forget that our attention is there. But our attention is there. And neither our culture nor our education inform us about how extremely important our attention is in our daily life.

       

      “Being” has two components: our attention and our presence. A person’s presence grows in direct proportion to the growth of the matrix structure upon which consciousness can grow. Since matrix only grows slowly and under certain conditions, presence also grows slowly over time. Watching presence grow would be like trying to watch hair grow. Rather uninteresting. We cannot really do anything with our presence.

       

      Not so with attention. Our attention is mobile and flutters about like a butterfly in a daisy field. When we turn on the television our attention flutters about like a butterfly in a tornado (the tornado being the television). Attention is our main tool in relationship. We can actually work with our attention.


      Mostly during the day our attention is not our own. Mostly during the day our attention is owned by the biggest sound, the strongest urge, the brightest flash, or the most dangerous threat in our environment. If there is any passing billboard that shows skin from a half-naked woman our attention is gone. Gone.

       

      Taking possession of your attention is not easy. For one thing, you face cutthroat competition from professional attention predators. Huge corporations spend billions every year in order to get your attention. Corporate marketing departments receive immense budgets for hijacking your attention for two reasons. The first reason is because it works – they can hijack your attention. Your untrained attention is easy to get. The second reason is because getting your attention more than pays for itself. If they have your attention, they have your wallet. The reason to learn to work with your attention is because where your attention goes, your energy flows. If you do not know where your attention is at any moment, then that is where your energy goes – into the unknown. If you are not consciously placing your attention somewhere, then you are unconsciously placing your attention somewhere else. And that is where your energy is disappearing.

       

      Each person wakes up in the morning with the same amount of energy as everybody else. The difference between the results that one person or another person creates is precisely what they do with their attention. Do you think that Mother Teresa had special solar bio-energy collectors that gave her the inspiration to create and manage a worldwide service program? No she did not. She succeeded because she learned to discipline her attention. Do you think Nelson Mandela stayed sane in prison for twenty-seven years by luck? No. He paid careful attention to his attention.

       

      You can learn to pay attention to your attention by consciously practicing to move your attention from one thing to another. You can place your attention on an object, an image, a sensation or an idea. You can move your attention from one object to another object. You can lose your attention. You can give your attention away. You can steal someone else’s attention. You can split your attention, paying attention to more than one thing at a time. For example, you can drive a car, chew gum, listen to the radio, watch interesting people on the sidewalk, scratch your nose and make plans for your day all at the same time.

      Experiment YOUATTEN.01

      Start to notice what you do with your attention minute-by-minute during the day. Where is your attention right now, for example? The instructions for experimenting are simple:

      • Pay attention to your attention.
      • Be aware of what you are aware of.
      • Think about what you are thinking with.
      • Perceive the perceiver.
      • Look at what you are looking with.
      • Role-play yourself.
      • Notice what you are noticing.
      • Be conscious of what you are conscious of.
      • Sense the way you are sensing.
      • Observe the observer, and so on.

      You can adjust the focus of your attention from narrow to broad.

       

      Narrow focus is called “point attention”.

      It is useful for reading, sawing wood along a marked line, threading a needle, adding numbers, and listening to what someone is saying.

       

      Broad focus of attention is called “field attention”.

      It is good for scanning, for “navigating” (that is, guiding or steering) meetings to hold to a certain purpose, for managing meaning during a conversation, for planning, multitasking, and so on.

       

      Learning to use your attention is like learning to ride a bike. At first it feels strange; after awhile you get the knack of it. No one else can manage your attention for you. If you don’t do it, it doesn’t happen. The instructions for developing conscious attention may seem simple, but carrying them out can take effort. Becoming aware of what you are aware of has a side effect: it builds matrix, and it can allow you to discover and enter the waking state.

    • The Power of Attention

      When a man puts his attention on a woman...

      Placing your attention on something is like shining a flashlight into the dark. Where your attention goes your energy flows. The effects caused by consciously directed attention do not come from the attention itself but rather from the energy that flows along the attention. It is your energy that lights things up. For example, when a man places his Archetypal Masculine attention on his woman, his Archetypal Masculine energy flows to her and in that moment she can light up. When a man places his conscious attention on his woman, the space is held for her. She is protected and safe. She no longer has to take care of herself from a survival perspective so her masculine defenses can relax. She softens and becomes more feminine. In that moment of softening the door opens for Archetypal Woman to appear.

       

      You can watch it happen as she changes before your eyes from an Ordinary Human woman into the Pirate Sorceress Warrioress Queen Goddess Woman.

      But if a man places his Ordinary attention on his woman even for an instant, the spell is broken.

      When a women puts her attention on a man...

      A woman must also be careful about what kind of attention she places on her man. A woman’s Ordinary attention can look anywhere and find fault. She sees whatever is not working, whatever might possibly go wrong. If you direct such attention at the imperfections in your man’s thin ego structure, that ego mechanically snaps into a scared snarling dog fighting for its life. But if you split off a portion of your practical field attention and use it to scan behind the scenes in all dimensions of your daily affairs to detect anything that needs to be handled, and if you place whatever you find on a prioritized list at the feet of your man to dispense with as he sees fit, that creates Archetypal Relationship.

       

      With the details handled through respectful teamwork rather than entangled in Low Drama, you can reserve the bulk of your feminine attention for appreciating the experience of being with your Archetypal Man as he brings you on his adventures, fights his battles and rescues you from the dreary Ordinary Admiring your hero with Archetypal Feminine attention, even if he struggles or wavers in his efforts, gives a man the strength of knowing that someone truly believes in him. The mysterious strength that arises from knowing that someone truly believes in you makes legendary results possible. Behind every successful Archetypal Man is an Archetypal Woman admiring her hero.

       

      The ability to intentionally place and sustain your attention on your partner takes intelligence and care. But, we have a conflict here, because the natural, unintentional manifestation of the masculine and the feminine is stupid aggressivity and evil. The key to the Archetypal domains is applying our attention with conscious intention, but practically speaking we do not own our attention.

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