TAKING BACK YOUR ATTENTION IS THE FIRST STEP TOWARDS TAKING BACK YOUR AUTHORITY
What Is Attention?
Human attention is one of the most delectable substances in the universe. How much effort do you put into trying to get attention from other people? Why? Most people love to get either positive or negative attention because it feels great to have another person’s attention, no matter what form it is.
We each have masculine and feminine forms of attention. Masculine attention is singular, focused, directed, analytical “point attention.” Feminine attention is wide-band, multi-dimensional, free floating, intuitive “field attention.” Each kind of attention has its particularly effective applications. Masculine point attention is useful for persisting, getting a project finished, or “drilling down” to get to the root of a matter. Feminine field attention is useful for scanning people, projects or situations to assess the state of things, check for unexpected conditions, detect moods or the drift of underlying currents.
"Human attention is sometimes the only thing required to perform healings and transformations."
- Clinton Callahan, Building Love That Lasts
Taking Back Your Attention
We do not normally think much about our attention. Perhaps this is because our attention is so close to us. Like glasses on our nose, we sometimes forget that our attention is there. But our attention is there. And neither our culture nor our education inform us about how extremely important our attention is in our daily life.
“Being” has two components: our attention and our presence. A person’s presence grows in direct proportion to the growth of the matrix structure upon which consciousness can grow. Since matrix only grows slowly and under certain conditions, presence also grows slowly over time. Watching presence grow would be like trying to watch hair grow. Rather uninteresting. We cannot really do anything with our presence.
Not so with attention. Our attention is mobile and flutters about like a butterfly in a daisy field. When we turn on the television our attention flutters about like a butterfly in a tornado (the tornado being the television). Attention is our main tool in relationship. We can actually work with our attention.
Mostly during the day our attention is not our own. Mostly during the day our attention is owned by the biggest sound, the strongest urge, the brightest flash, or the most dangerous threat in our environment. If there is any passing billboard that shows skin from a half-naked woman our attention is gone. Gone.
Taking possession of your attention is not easy. For one thing, you face cutthroat competition from professional attention predators. Huge corporations spend billions every year in order to get your attention. Corporate marketing departments receive immense budgets for hijacking your attention for two reasons. The first reason is because it works – they can hijack your attention. Your untrained attention is easy to get. The second reason is because getting your attention more than pays for itself. If they have your attention, they have your wallet. The reason to learn to work with your attention is because where your attention goes, your energy flows. If you do not know where your attention is at any moment, then that is where your energy goes – into the unknown. If you are not consciously placing your attention somewhere, then you are unconsciously placing your attention somewhere else. And that is where your energy is disappearing.
Each person wakes up in the morning with the same amount of energy as everybody else. The difference between the results that one person or another person creates is precisely what they do with their attention. Do you think that Mother Teresa had special solar bio-energy collectors that gave her the inspiration to create and manage a worldwide service program? No she did not. She succeeded because she learned to discipline her attention. Do you think Nelson Mandela stayed sane in prison for twenty-seven years by luck? No. He paid careful attention to his attention.
You can learn to pay attention to your attention by consciously practicing to move your attention from one thing to another. You can place your attention on an object, an image, a sensation or an idea. You can move your attention from one object to another object. You can lose your attention. You can give your attention away. You can steal someone else’s attention. You can split your attention, paying attention to more than one thing at a time. For example, you can drive a car, chew gum, listen to the radio, watch interesting people on the sidewalk, scratch your nose and make plans for your day all at the same time.
It is useful for reading, sawing wood along a marked line, threading a needle, adding numbers, and listening to what someone is saying.
It is good for scanning, for “navigating” (that is, guiding or steering) meetings to hold to a certain purpose, for managing meaning during a conversation, for planning, multitasking, and so on.
Learning to use your attention is like learning to ride a bike. At first it feels strange; after awhile you get the knack of it. No one else can manage your attention for you. If you don’t do it, it doesn’t happen. The instructions for developing conscious attention may seem simple, but carrying them out can take effort. Becoming aware of what you are aware of has a side effect: it builds matrix, and it can allow you to discover and enter the waking state.
The Power of Attention
Placing your attention on something is like shining a flashlight into the dark. Where your attention goes your energy flows. The effects caused by consciously directed attention do not come from the attention itself but rather from the energy that flows along the attention. It is your energy that lights things up. For example, when a man places his Archetypal Masculine attention on his woman, his Archetypal Masculine energy flows to her and in that moment she can light up. When a man places his conscious attention on his woman, the space is held for her. She is protected and safe. She no longer has to take care of herself from a survival perspective so her masculine defenses can relax. She softens and becomes more feminine. In that moment of softening the door opens for Archetypal Woman to appear.
You can watch it happen as she changes before your eyes from an Ordinary Human woman into the Pirate Sorceress Warrioress Queen Goddess Woman.
But if a man places his Ordinary attention on his woman even for an instant, the spell is broken.
A woman must also be careful about what kind of attention she places on her man. A woman’s Ordinary attention can look anywhere and find fault. She sees whatever is not working, whatever might possibly go wrong. If you direct such attention at the imperfections in your man’s thin ego structure, that ego mechanically snaps into a scared snarling dog fighting for its life. But if you split off a portion of your practical field attention and use it to scan behind the scenes in all dimensions of your daily affairs to detect anything that needs to be handled, and if you place whatever you find on a prioritized list at the feet of your man to dispense with as he sees fit, that creates Archetypal Relationship.
With the details handled through respectful teamwork rather than entangled in Low Drama, you can reserve the bulk of your feminine attention for appreciating the experience of being with your Archetypal Man as he brings you on his adventures, fights his battles and rescues you from the dreary Ordinary.
Admiring your hero with Archetypal Feminine attention, even if he struggles or wavers in his efforts, gives a man the strength of knowing that someone truly believes in him. The mysterious strength that arises from knowing that someone truly believes in you makes legendary results possible. Behind every successful Archetypal Man is an Archetypal Woman admiring her hero.
The ability to intentionally place and sustain your attention on your partner takes intelligence and care. But, we have a conflict here, because the natural, unintentional manifestation of the masculine and the feminine is stupid aggressivity and evil. The key to the Archetypal domains is applying our attention with conscious intention, but practically speaking we do not own our attention.
1. You have attention. Where does it go?
2. Pay attention to your attention. Pay attention to other people's attention. Meta-conversation about your attention. You can move your attention, change the quality of your attention. You can notice when you lose it or somebody takes it away.
3. Consciously use your attention to create possibility in different ways. This includes Splitting Your Attention to put one part of your attention on what is needed, and another part of your attention on the invisible, on what is possible. If you can put your attention there, then other people can put their attention there. This is how you Flow Power, Hold Space, Navigate Space, Detecting Gremlin, Detect Bullshit, and listen to impulses from E.C.C.O., Gaia, your Pearl, your Bright Principles, and your Archetypal Lineage. Make and use free-floating attention to listen for impulses. They are all around you.
Experiments In Conscious Attention
No one can develop your Conscious Attention for you.
On the other hand, no one can stop you from using Experiments to
strengthen your Attention Muscles to develop your Conscious Attention.
For an hour, carry around a stuffed animal. This will be your reminder to keep doing this experiment. As you move through your life, tell that stuffed animal out loud what you notice and what you are giving your attention to. Keep going for the whole hour. If you notice that you are not saying anything to the stuffed animal, get back to the experiment. If you do not go back to the experiment, pay the stuffed animal $3.
Sit for 5 minutes with your Beep! Book and write about what you noticed and learned.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code YOUATTEN.01 in your free account at StartOver.xyz and as proof include one sentence of what you wrote in your Beep! Book. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
For one day, set up your alarm to ring every 5 minutes. Really loud. Then, every five minutes, put your attention on what you really want to do right now. Then, notice where your attention was just before. Complaining, regretting, being nostalgic, focusing on something, being distracted by thinking about tomorrow, whatever.
Every time the alarm goes, write down what you discover: what your attention was doing and what it is that you wanted. Take note of how they do not agree with each other.
NOTE: For this experiment, you do not have to do the things you notice you want to do.
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Point attention is necessary for being able to be where you are, in a minimized here and a minimized now. It is what you need for being centered. The purpose of this Experiment is to develop your attention muscles.
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Unconscious attention spreads out everywhere. Unconscious fear spreads out everywhere. For this experiment, for a whole week, go to the supermarket and walk through the streets being a prey to the advertisements, to money, to people who want something from you and your attention. Of everything. Only do this experiment for 30 seconds to 5 minutes at a time, because there are predators looking for prey all the time.
When you get home, write down where your attention was.
Try this experiment in different places, including in your house.
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In daily life, many things are said and done in a speed that is faster than the speed of Love. The purpose of this Experiment is to notice speed in relationship to the speed of Love. When are things done faster, or slower, than what the speed of Love would be in that moment?
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Develop and practice Field Attention.
There are 3 kinds of Field Attention to practice:
Practice Field Attention without Scanning - Soft Eyes - for twenty minutes.
The way you practice Soft Eyes is:
Register your impressions in your Beep! Book.
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Scan while spinning around and holding your hand out like a magician. Scan for a particular color, for possibility, resistance, collaboration, gremlin, extraordinary love. List 7 things and pick one thing a day for 7 days.
Spend one of those days scanning for the things that nobody else is scanning for. Also consider scanning the city for a great croissant.
After 7 days write down any changes or Noticings about your attention.
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After completing this Experiment, please register Matrix Code YOUATTEN.08 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. In the Proof section, please write an example of what you Noticed about changes in your Attention through doing this Experiment. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
For at least an hour, set the timer to ring every 10 minutes. When the timer goes off the first time, walk and turn your attention up. When the timer rings, turn your attention down and walk like a zombie. When you turn your attention up, you walk like Wonder Woman. Keep turning it up and down and slowing down, gradually, every time the timer rings.
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Guard your attention. For one entire day and night, the whole time, put a little sticker on yourself that says : I am not giving away my attention. Do not put your attention anywhere. Put it on your center. Put it on your energetic center, and that is it. That is all you are doing. You do not answer the telephone, you do not answer the email, you do not answer the door.
You can do this as part of the 36-hour process.
During this day and night, write down the fears that come up. Write down the impulses. Write down the stories behind your impulses to put your attention somewhere else.
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For a week, put your attention on the following list of qualities of the spaces you are in:
• Whose space is it?
• What is the purpose of this space?
• Is this space consciously held or unconsciously held?
• Who is the spaceholder?
• How is the space going? What is adding to the space, what is taking away from the space?
Makes notes about 5 different spaces in you Beep! Book. One of them should be your Possibility Team. Others could be your family, in a café, at work, at home, your relationship space. Put your attention on the qualities of the spaces.
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Do this experiment with a partner with whom you can negotiate how you want to be touched. Do an exchange in touch:
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For 3 days, notice people's unconscious attention. Notice the unconscious attention they put on the television or radio, on the horns honking. Women looking at the opposite gender, or looking to other women for comparison. Men avoiding to make eye contact with other men. Parents pretending to be present with their children, but being present with something else.
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Start to notice what you do with your attention minute-by-minute during the day. Where is your attention right now, for example? The instructions for experimenting are simple:
You can adjust the focus of your attention from narrow to broad.
Notice your attention for half an hour consciously each day for 7 days. After this half hour, take note of things you noticed.
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Conscious Attention is when someone knows that they have Attention, are aware of their Attention, and are aware that other people have Attention.
This person is aware of consciously putting their Attention certain places and not other places, and is also aware of where other people are placing or not placing their conscious or unconscious Attention.
Do not be overwhelmingly afraid if you don't find anybody with Conscious Attention. On the other hand, do not be overwhelmingly afraid if you do find somebody, and if they find you at the same time.
Go talk to any person you find with Conscious Attention. In particular, interview them about how they learned to be aware of their Attention, how they practice with Conscious Attention, and what they do with their Conscious Attention. Takes notes in your Beep! Book about what they say.
For someone to have Conscious Attention, people put at least part of their attention on their attention. They have a purpose of putting their attention in a specific place consciously. In order to have conscious attention you have to split your attention.
Part of the attention then is, for example, on not giving their center away. On observing your purpose as you speak, or on self-observing, watching out for Low Drama or survival.
After scanning other people's conscious attention for 2 days, please register Matrix Code YOUATTEN.15 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
For this experiment, the procedure is: do not do anything that attracts anybody's attention. Do whatever it takes to not be noticed. Figure out what that is. Practice moving through movie spaces, dining spaces and shopping places invisibly. Stand at a bar and wait for 10 minutes before someone asks you what you want. Learn to move without upsetting people's attention. Become invisible.
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You may have to do an EHP as part of this experiment. For this, contact your Possibilitator Team or Possibility Coach.
This Experiment is to become 10 times more visible than your ordinary way of surviving. Become 10 times more visible at home, at work, and everywhere you go.
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Notice the qualities of the spaces you are in. What do you sense? What are these spaces for?
There is a difference between the purposes that a space is said to be for, and the hidden purposes of that space.
A café says they are delivering service to your physical body, but there is also the purpose of making money. A hotel space says they are receiving you as their guest, but you could also notice the hidden purpose of maintaining corporate image and competing.
In any space, you can notice hidden purposes of flirting, exchanging sexual energy, of somebody finding proof they are inferior or superior, or somebody being nice and smiling in order to pretend there is no fear of relating.
Put your attention on the qualities of the space, to detect hidden purposes.
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If you do not have a partner, it is because you have not done this Experiment. I especially recommend this Experiment for men.
A hint is: to declare that what you want, is to know what she wants. Then, commit to what she wants. In the beginning it might be small things like silence. Freedom of having to defend herself. Freedom from having to be available. Notice, and commit to what she wants. See what happens.
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Follow your fear. If you do not follow your fear, this blocks you from putting your attention on things that make you scared.
3 days before you meet with your Possibility Team, start noticing when your unconscious fear takes your attention away from:
Bring your list to your Possibility Team. Then, ask them to tell you what you did not notice that you are not putting your attention on.
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For 3 days, observe when you are paying attention to something. At the same time, use a part of your attention to notice if you are really paying attention to that something.
If not, what is it that you are actually paying attention to?
Take notes of all the things you pay attention to, while pretending you are paying attention to something else.
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In order to do the impossible you have to be able to see the invisible. You have to be able to see the potential before bringing someone into what they could become.
For 5 days:
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